Comments on: The moveable (and the not-so-much) mountains. http://cherylkatz.org/2009/06/30/the-moveable-and-the-not-so-much-mountains/ From scratch. Tue, 20 Apr 2010 05:43:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Melanie http://cherylkatz.org/2009/06/30/the-moveable-and-the-not-so-much-mountains/comment-page-1/#comment-883 Melanie Thu, 02 Jul 2009 02:46:17 +0000 http://cherylkatz.org/?p=472#comment-883 I keep telling you that is one wicked smart kid you've got there, and this is just another piece of evidence. Most two-and-a-halfers aren't making these kinds of connections, just as they aren't speaking as articulately or arguing as logically as Miss Sami. And as your friends have said, you handled this situation with grace and wonderful mothering. I can remember my own preoccupation with death verbally manifesting around age 3 or 4, when I would wander into my parents' room every couple of nights just to let my mother I was afraid of dying -- both for myself and for my parents. Mama says this went on for a few years, but, with the pediatrician's reassurance, she continued to deal with it calmly and gently. Without lies, or false promises, but in loving, careful, age-appropriate terms. Just so you know, every time I see you with Sami or read about your interactions with her in your blog, I smile at how lucky you two are to have one another and I only hope I'll be as fortunate in my own life. --- mel I keep telling you that is one wicked smart kid you’ve got there, and this is just another piece of evidence. Most two-and-a-halfers aren’t making these kinds of connections, just as they aren’t speaking as articulately or arguing as logically as Miss Sami. And as your friends have said, you handled this situation with grace and wonderful mothering.

I can remember my own preoccupation with death verbally manifesting around age 3 or 4, when I would wander into my parents’ room every couple of nights just to let my mother I was afraid of dying — both for myself and for my parents. Mama says this went on for a few years, but, with the pediatrician’s reassurance, she continued to deal with it calmly and gently. Without lies, or false promises, but in loving, careful, age-appropriate terms.

Just so you know, every time I see you with Sami or read about your interactions with her in your blog, I smile at how lucky you two are to have one another and I only hope I’ll be as fortunate in my own life.

— mel

]]> By: noelle http://cherylkatz.org/2009/06/30/the-moveable-and-the-not-so-much-mountains/comment-page-1/#comment-882 noelle Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:15:15 +0000 http://cherylkatz.org/?p=472#comment-882 Wow, dear friend, wow. You dealt with it with major aplomb. We can't control what little ones remember, but at times, I do remember things. It's strange what is remembered, and what is forgotten. Amazing stuff, and yet again, I am impressed. With many things about you and your life. Love me .-= noelle´s last blog ..<a href="http://eventsbynoelle.com/blog/2009/06/26/the-week-that-was/" rel="nofollow">The Week that Was</a> =-. Wow, dear friend, wow. You dealt with it with major aplomb. We can’t control what little ones remember, but at times, I do remember things. It’s strange what is remembered, and what is forgotten.

Amazing stuff, and yet again, I am impressed.
With many things about you and your life.

Love
me
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]]> By: Allison http://cherylkatz.org/2009/06/30/the-moveable-and-the-not-so-much-mountains/comment-page-1/#comment-881 Allison Wed, 01 Jul 2009 10:06:25 +0000 http://cherylkatz.org/?p=472#comment-881 Hiya, I too am glad to hear that Sami let you know about this. I have enjoyed reading about your and her adventures. "Magical Thinking" placing blame for events on themselves is very common in young children. Here's a link if you want to read some more...it deals more with the death of people, but the concept is applicable. http://www.jamesline.com/viewer/Pages/index.aspx?P=413 Hiya, I too am glad to hear that Sami let you know about this. I have enjoyed reading about your and her adventures. “Magical Thinking” placing blame for events on themselves is very common in young children. Here’s a link if you want to read some more…it deals more with the death of people, but the concept is applicable. http://www.jamesline.com/viewer/Pages/index.aspx?P=413

]]> By: Uccellina http://cherylkatz.org/2009/06/30/the-moveable-and-the-not-so-much-mountains/comment-page-1/#comment-879 Uccellina Wed, 01 Jul 2009 06:04:37 +0000 http://cherylkatz.org/?p=472#comment-879 I was convinced I had killed my great grandmother because I had hidden behind my mother when we went to visit the nursing home, and then, months and months later, she died. I was maybe three, four years old. For years afterward, I obsessed over my guilt, imagining the visit had gone differently, inventing elaborate rescue scenarios in which I saved her life. I didn't tell my mother about any of this until I was in my teens, and had realized it wasn't my fault. I'm glad Sami talked to you about it and got straightened out now. Kids are weird in what they absorb and how they understand it. .-= Uccellina´s last blog ..<a href="http://abirdsnest.wordpress.com/2009/06/17/wrens-video-pick-of-the-week-2/" rel="nofollow">Wren’s Video Pick of the Week</a> =-. I was convinced I had killed my great grandmother because I had hidden behind my mother when we went to visit the nursing home, and then, months and months later, she died. I was maybe three, four years old. For years afterward, I obsessed over my guilt, imagining the visit had gone differently, inventing elaborate rescue scenarios in which I saved her life. I didn’t tell my mother about any of this until I was in my teens, and had realized it wasn’t my fault.

I’m glad Sami talked to you about it and got straightened out now. Kids are weird in what they absorb and how they understand it.
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]]> By: Diane http://cherylkatz.org/2009/06/30/the-moveable-and-the-not-so-much-mountains/comment-page-1/#comment-878 Diane Wed, 01 Jul 2009 03:28:13 +0000 http://cherylkatz.org/?p=472#comment-878 You may not be able to change how Sami thinks and feels, but as her mother you have a powerful influence. And just the fact that she is conscientious and aware of such things is as impressive and as it is sad. You never cease to amaze me in both your running and mothering--kudos to you in the face of such challenges. You may not be able to change how Sami thinks and feels, but as her mother you have a powerful influence. And just the fact that she is conscientious and aware of such things is as impressive and as it is sad. You never cease to amaze me in both your running and mothering–kudos to you in the face of such challenges.

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